Book Review: The Failure Project - Anup Kochhar

The Failure Project - The Story Of Man's Greatest Fear by Anup Kochhar unlike other books doesn’t tell us to deny the fear, but to face it and accept it, not to mention that sometimes it is the secret ingredient for great results.

Fear is a feeling that the man gets from birth with a sense of abandonment that permeates since the cutting of the umbilical cord. With the growth, our fears increase, thicken, we cloud the mind and very often are the cause of all our problems. Fear of failure, of being abandoned, fear of expectations, fear of rejection, fear of being abused. Our life is a continuous escape from these fears, pretending it does not exist or adopting strategies mostly unconscious to put them to rest.

But sooner or later we will not be able to deal with it. Those who live on the outer layer will only turn on itself, constantly running away from their fears, through strategies or through the co-dependence of an other person, but never solving the problem. The author believes that the fears should be addressed, leaving them to act, letting them grow and develop and then observe them. When we become observers, nothing can hurt us.

Man's life is lived on the surface, called protective layer, a place of shelter, safe but sterile and useless. Most of the people live this condition. Chasing pseudo securities that do nothing but turn away more and more from one's being. In a way, our inner child has had the experience of being abandoned, physically or emotionally.  All our survival mechanisms have been an attempt to recover from this aggression. However, healing cannot take place until at a conscious level we report these experiences.

Performance anxieties, fear of success, perfectionism are all symptoms of our age. More and more people are afraid of not being up to the growing professional and private demands. The fear of failure destroys the sense of self-worth and devoid the joy of living. What can help us to limit the fear of failing in what we do? How we can more adequately manage the expectations that others have in us?

And how do you learn to modulate the requests that we do to ourselves? In this book, the author illustrates what lies behind the most common fears of failure and encourages us not only to be more aware of the capabilities and strengths, but also the failings or weaknesses that distinguish us.

In life, the problems are basically of two types those that we can control and those that are beyond our control. If in a given circumstance we have no power of influence, we have to do about absorbing precious energy, but rather to channel them to work elsewhere.

After telling the biology of fear, the levels of thought, emotions, and physical action on which it acts, the blocks caused by it and the various ways in which it manifests itself, the author specifically address the fear of failure, by analyzing the origins and consequences with tendency to postpone or avoid, perfectionism, dependency development, psychosomatic disorders, burnout and depression.

The book is a journey inside the human being, to discover its fears, its difficulties, and the buried wounds that act effectively on the present with all the inevitable consequences and how to overcome them that brings us closer to the centre of our life, our being to observe the flow of life without feeling compelled to action. But even when you're in the centre of your being there is great deal of splendour and mystery.

In the work, the premise made by the author makes clear the importance of having the right way to look at ourselves. The principle is based on the fact that if you want to improve your life, you have to change the way you see things , or rather, the way in which the observed with the ability to react to events not allowing ourselves to be conditioned by external factors or psychological hesitation.

The point revolves around the fact that, to be successful, you have to concentrate on what you can control and do not waste your resources on what happens outside of you and of your will by knowing what kind of person you would like to be in the eyes of others, and in fact, then you will take action to become that kind of person.

The author emphasizes the need to not to opt for a success for the few, rather than the creation of options that bring benefits to many. So, do not think only of your success, but think also that of others. After all, if you help people to reach their goals, they will help you achieve your goals. This means then to listen, and to strive to see the situation from the point of view of the other, and not just your own, and only then to provide a solution.

The author emphasizes the importance of self-renewal in all aspects of physical, mental, spiritual, social and emotional levels. Very often, we are so taken by our frenetic pace that we lose the sense of what we really are. From time to time you do need to take a step back and engage in the recovery of yourselves to promote the self-improvement.

The successful person is a person of character, who decides for himself and rules his world so as to not be treated under the thumb. However, it remains a sensitive subject, open to the needs of others, faithful to its values, and motivated by the desire to contribute to the existence in general to the best of their abilities and opportunities.

This book is a must in the collection of everyone to give a level of quality to our lives with useful and constructive behaviours perpetrated over time that can lead to success.

Format: Paperback ♥ Publisher: Leadstart ♥ Pages: 193 ♥ Published: May 2016 ♥ Language: English ♥ ISBN-13: 978-9352015788